What Happens When You Stop Performing? đźŽ
What Happens When You Stop Performing? đźŽ
For most of my life, I thought I had to earn my place by performing.
Not just in business — in life.
Show up. Deliver. Impress. Be the best in the room.
Whether it was the boardroom or the dancefloor, I felt like I was being watched. Judged. Scored.
And so I performed. Or tried to….
But something shifted last November. I was on retreat, and we were invited to dance. Not choreographed. Not for anyone else. Just… move.
I froze.
Because every time I’d danced before — I was trying to perform. And with that came judgement. Fear. Pressure.
But then I realised something:
What I truly wanted wasn’t to be seen. It was to express.
To feel joy. To be present. To connect with myself.
And that moment changed everything.
When I stopped performing, I started being.
And in that space — there was freedom.
After a life of not being able to dance in public due to crippling performance anxiety I’m now happily expressing my joy through dance with hundreds of others without the need to self medicate!
The same is true in work, in relationships, in how we live.
✨ Who are you when no one’s watching?
✨ Where in your life are you still performing to be liked, approved, or validated?
✨ What would happen if you gave yourself permission to just be?
Here’s the magic: When you stop trying so hard, you don’t become invisible. You become magnetic.
Because people are drawn to truth. To presence. To joy.
And that’s what lives underneath performance — you.
Unmasked. Unfiltered. Alive.
PS: If you're tired of performing your life and ready to start living it — I see you.
Let’s talk.
READING • WATCHING • LISTENING
📖 The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck — A powerful read on returning to your truest self.
🎥 Inside Out (Pixar) — Yes, it’s for kids. But it’s also a beautiful metaphor for emotional honesty and being with what’s real.
🎧 On Being with Krista Tippett & Jon Batiste — A soulful exploration of art, authenticity and the courage to live from within.
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